I am so sorry that this happened to you. These stories are excellent to share, because it provides caution to other hosts.
I recall a time maybe 6 months ago when I had shared an anecdote, or given another host some advice or something like that and a host scolded me for frightening hosts with extreme, rare circumstances, telling me I was being negative, etc.
I ended up leaving the forums for months as a result, because I firmly believe that by sharing the worst things that can happen, it encourages us to set firm boundaries, which results in better bookings.
You’re not an idiot at all; it’s easy to give people the benefit of the doubt, or question whether or not we’re being overly strict. I’m just very sorry that you’ll no longer be a host.
One recommendation: Las Vegas has lots of nice raw commercial spaces that are only a buck *(or less) a square foot and you could EASILY turn it into an event space.
The wedding industry is going to bounce back and when it does, you should get in touch with my friends at Spectacular Weddings, Laura and Debra.
Or just have a semi-raw photography studio with a few backgrounds and equipment you can rent for 30 an hour.
Maybe this is just a turning point? Renting out your home is a lot trickier than a commercial space and it requires a fearless and extremely firm hand at times.
We once had a group of guests from another platform try to kidnap us (that didn’t work) and another group from a boxing club tried to physically fight my 5’3" fiancee (long story short: that REALLY didn’t work) and another time, a guy got high on our porch, passed out and then tried to fight me when I discovered him that night and told him to get out (that REAAAALLY didn’t work).
What I recommend is hiring a security guard and adding it into the cost of your rental. My fiancee is already a licensed guard so I kinda save on that front, but I think any group of 10 or more needs a representative present to prevent property damage and personal liability.
Please give it another shot with a commercial space. If you decide to give a rental studio a try, used to have a photography studio at 3125 W. Ali Baba Lane in Las Vegas. The management company was just wonderful and parking lot has an amazing view of the Luxor on one side and the stadium on the other.
I used to take these epic pics with the Luxor in the background at night that everyone thought was Photoshopped. With backgrounds like that, photographers would fall in love with the place.
Also, Vegas is a funny city to shoot in, as most of the land is BLM (DIFFERENT BLM!!) owned and they have insane $600 permit costs for a still photo shoot.
If you create something unique indoors for portraiture, not only will you save the photographers the permit costs, but get them out of that heat!